I have now spent a month reading and thinking about transformation and it seems like there are a few areas I need to continue to work on transforming in my own heart and brain. One is how I define success. There are days that I know I am successful because I am clear I am doing what I am supposed to be doing in and with my life. Then there are those moments when Zoe has to pull my head out of my ass because I feel like a failure.
Those moments seem to come when I start to evaluate my life based on the ideals of others and when I have not been giving myself my daily affirmations. I have to be intentional everyday about affirming myself. I cannot depend on anyone else to give me those affirmations. Being self-affirming has to be intentional and some days I fall back in those old habits of beating myself up instead of building myself up. Sometimes I fall, but then I get back up again and affirm myself for being able to do so.
Part of it comes when I spend too much, or any time, listening to the negative noise in the world. Even without television. Everything seems to be filled with fear and negative energy. While I miss watching the Food Network, the only channel I watched, I don’t miss the news, the fear, and hatred. Even on Facebook and Social Media there is so much negativity. I try to keep it off my feed, but it sneaks in. Everyday is about being focused on the positive. Everyday has to be about affirming myself and reminding me that success is about whether I did good in the world today, not how much money I am making or not making.
So thank you for finding ways to remind me to appreciate my own successes, no matter how large or small, and the success of others. Thank you for surrounding me with people who love and support me and removing from me everything and everyone that tries to degrade me or weigh me down.
When I remember to affirm myself and celebrate my accomplishments, then I am being intentional about being authentic, about developing the confidence in myself I need to take myself to the next level. It is the ability to appreciate myself that is going to enable me to evolve to the next level. I have had to realize that my greatness in life is not about meeting other people’s expectations, it is about making sure that each day I find a way to use the gifts I have been given to make a difference in this world.
There is nothing wrong with affirming myself or celebrating my successes. Doing so does not make me arrogant. Doing so helps me grow into the amazing person you created me to be.